The Role of Relationships in Our Overall Wellbeing
If we think back to the PERMA model, by Martin Seligman, we can see how positive relationships play a role in our wellbeing. Having positive relationships links in with the other aspects of the model.
Other things that contribute to wellbeing and flourishing as well as positive relationships.
Positive emotions: These are likely to occur in the company of other people that we enjoy spending time with.
Engagement: Relationships can foster a sense of connectedness and can bring about times when we are fully absorbed in the moment with others and ‘in the zone’ .
Meaning: Often relationships are built as part of broader social networks and communities and may provide a sense of purpose for us.
Accomplishments: Relationships can help us to build up our internal resources and help us towards achieving our goals.
The Good Life
In addition, positive relationships help us to cope with negative life events and experiences by acting as a buffer. When negative events happen, social support and reassurance can help us to cope with the associated stress and negative experiences.
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Particularly as we age, having strong positive relationships is important to wellbeing and is the most important factor for a longer life. If you would like to, watch the TED talk below that discusses a long-term research study which looks at what makes a good life.
The Impact of Past Relationships
As much as building positive relationships into our future, it is important to consider our past relationships and how these may impact on our ability to form long-term stable relationships with others. In some instances this can be more difficult if you’ve had traumatic experiences as a result of unhealthy relationships.
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The TED talk below highlights the way in which trauma can affect a person and their relationships and how positive relationships are helpful in healing from trauma.
You might want to make notes at this point. These may help you remember things, work out what you want or see how much you’ve changed if you read them again in a few years’ time.